THE PRICE OF PARTNERSHIP OF LIFETIME...!

Marriages are made in heaven, that’s what is generally said, but in our country they usually are made in match-making bureaus or portals. Love-based marriages do happen in India but it is not a usual norm. It is an accepted fact that a person's family will have the most important role, usually more than the individual himself in choosing his/her partner. Here in India more than the union of two souls, marriage is considered to be a blend of two families. Potential brides and grooms are scrutinized as if they are applying for a job and then shortlisted like interview applicants. The funniest part is that the person applying for the job has to indirectly pay an incentive instead of getting one, I hope you understand what am I referring to : The most common and illogical phenomenon in India,  DOWRY.

                 

It might sound normal to most but millions of brides till date are harassed mentally , sexually and emotionally and sometimes forced to give away their lives in name of our ‘so-called tradition’, Dowry.                         

                         

Now what is dowry???

We all know what dowry is : A helpless father paying for his daughter’s marriage in cash or kind either on demand of her would-be husband’s family or in order to prove his love for his daughter and increase his goodwill in the eyes of the society.                                              

                   

Is the bridegroom jobless, homeless or carless ? Is he not capable enough to satisfy his partner’s needs? This concept is more of a business alliance between two families where one family pays the other so that their daughter stays happy. Isn’t this completely indebting the girl’s father, first he gives the most precious part of his life, his daughter and along with that pays for his daughter’s happiness. Is this fair? Isn’t giving away your child enough for a marriage? Is this what marriages really are for? Are we buying love?

Then if we think over, this is one of the major reasons for female foeticide too, because a poor man cannot afford to get his daughter married and make her happy and hence, he chooses to kill the girl child.

Marriages are always projected like a business deal. In most of the marriages, the bridegroom does not want any cash or gift , he is captivated alone by the idea of getting his life partner but the groom's family is in high hopes of dowry . In some cases, it's  like an auction of the groom. Whosoever pays more will get the groom. It's not about how compatible the bride and the groom are but more about the bank balance bride’s father has. Many parents think that if they won’t give dowry, their daughters will be tortured , killed or hanged to death. So in hopes of a happy married life for their daughter, they end up disbursing savings of their lifetime . But do they end up being happy?

In most cases, it’s a NO. The groom’s family is never satisfied. Their never ending desires soar to new heights. When the bride’s family  is unable to cope up with the ever so increasing demands of the groom’s family, there begins a gruesome tale of torture.

                       

I am sorry to say that, this practice is still prevalent in our MODERN generation too. We live in the 21st century, we claim to be “modern” and consider ourselves broad-minded. But when it comes to marriage , it is supposed to be a big fat fancy wedding which burns a hole in one’s pocket.

It is high time, we need to change our outlook and re-think of what standard we are setting for our future generations. Only if we take a deep insight into our practices, we would know how narrow-minded we are. Upper class families are considered to be more educated than lower class but the practice is more regnant in upper class families .So, basically education has barely led to any contribution in terms of change in our society. In fact , the dowry system has added to crimes against women ranging  from emotional abuse ,injuries  to deaths. Despite of strict laws against this evil practice dowry ,there are huge number of cases still present in our society just because, Indian judicial system highly lacks in giving justice and this justice can be exchanged with bribery of these rich conservative families. 

We, who represent the current and the future of our country, need to raise a voice against dowry, in order to abolish this hateful practice and let marriage be an act of love and purity instead of greed and money.

What do you think we can really do in order to improve the mentality of our nation? Also, how about we the generation of today, work on this idea and start improving the thought pattern of India.

       

DO WE NEED TO CHANGE?

Hey everyone,

Sorry for the delay but was searching for something really powerful to come up with. And it happened. Yesterday only I saw many of my facebook friends sharing a video so I decided to watch it maybe just to break the shackles of boredom. Let me tell you  the video I am talking about is the same that is doing rounds on the world wide web. And if by the slightest chance you have no clue what I am talking about then please do watch this documentary by bbc “INDIA’S DAUGHTER”.

16^th December 2012, a girl named   Jyoti Singh (  to whom we referred as NIRBHAYA), almost a doctor, decided to watch a movie with her friend and I guess that was her ONLY mistake. Watching a movie with a friend (of the opposite sex) in India is a crime. If a girl is found walking on the streets at night she will be considered loose, a girl wearing a dress is considered available, a girl hanging around with guys is surely a slut but a boy having multiple girlfriends is still considered a DUDE. That’s the mindset of our society.

 It took the government merely days to put an Fir against the famous AIB roast but it took more than a year to punish the accused of the nirbhaya rape case. And it’s not just about this case but according to the reports there is a rape case in India every 20mins and most of them go unreported. Not just rapes but acid attacks, domestic violence everything infuriates me and every second women in our country. People say  you  gotta be the change you wish to see in the world. But in a country like ours the victim is forced to live an isolated life coz she has been touched by another man and nobody would marry her and the accused is set free as if it’s his birth right  to rape women. Why do we not hear about men being raped or sexually harassed? Has anyone ever thought that way? Nobody I believe.  Then  why women?  maybe because they are physically weak, maybe that’s the part of our culture to suppress a woman for pleasure. Women were and are still just considered as sex objects by majority of men in our country not just the illiterate but also the most educated (which includes the honourable defence lawyers of the rape case).

The aim of this post is not to highlight the nirbhaya rape case as enough has already been said about it in the last two years but its an urge to the masses to change their way of thinking. Its all in your mind. People say girls should stop wearing short dresses or revealing clothes but even a 2year old girl gets raped  in our country. Is this because she was trying to seduce the man?  No its because she is a girl and she is meant to be treated like this. When a girl is raped or harassed, she is asked to stay mum so that her family’s name does not get hampered. But what about her inner being? Girls,we need to raise voice against all the atrocities and sufferings and not choosing to go by the monotony. We are not weak rather we are much stronger than the men around. Its just we gotta prove them wrong.

It’s the need of the hour to not just change the mindsets of the people but also raise voice against the illogical system of our society. It’s either now or never.

DILLI MERI JAAAN....!!!!!

DELHI....what do I say about this place.

Being born and brought up here , I have an obvious proclivity towards this place. Delhi is a lunatic city. There is never a dull moment and there is always something to see or do,even if it's simply watching the neighbour squabble with the sabzi-walla about the price of vegetables . People are out on the streets eating, working, and just generally loitering at all hours of the day and night. The air itself says something which can't be put down to words .It is a city that will pay you a million for your sweat and 50 cents for your soul.

Delhi is a city you'll either love or hate. There's no middle way. It  is the city of  the extremists whether you talk about the people or the climate it is always poles apart. Since Delhi is a home to people from every culture, background and state you will never find any regional language dominating the other. You won't find  people communicating in Hindi or English but HINGLISH. Delhiites tend to stand out of the crowd because of their typical DILLI slang .

Now,  the FOOD that defines this city . From aloo tikki to gol gappas , the street food is the USP of Delhi. It is worth even the threat of Delhi belly .Moreover, the excitement begins months before  the big fat Indian weddings and persists even longer. Also, the city never sleeps ! It has something to offer to every set of people. However, there is no defined boundary in the city ,but the food and culture bifurcates the place into two halves, SOUTH DELHI AND NORTH DELHI. This contrast  is the highlight of this insane hub ,the way south has all the posh bungalows ,extravagant malls and shopping hubs, north popularly called "OLD DELHI" has chandni chowk-the oldest hub of shopping, the paranthe wali galli and famous roadside food which is a major tourist attraction. Also ,the infrastructure makes people experience the best of both the worlds.

There is no end to my love for this crazy city kyunki

YEH DELHI HAI MERE YAAR.....